June 21st, 2011 by Jessie-Mae Secord
I’m one of those people that always have multiple windows open on my computer – all the various websites I need to look at, articles I need to read, photolistings I would like to check out, research to be done, links recommended.
For the last few days, a blog has sat open, waiting for a few minutes of my time. Today, I started reading and haven’t been able to stop. I highly recommend that every foster parent read this blog. I know I don’t have a huge audience on this website (“hi!” to the 3 people that will read this!), but please spread the word in whatever way you can.
I Was A Foster Kid is a blog written by LT, who entered foster care at age 7 and aged out of the system at 18. Here’s what LT has to say about herself.
“I am a 20-something who is trying to make it in the world. I spent most of my life growing up in the foster care system. I was raised in 13 different homes (bioparents + 12 foster/group homes) and only a couple were truly “homes.” I aged-out at 18 with no connections and nothing and have been struggling to make it ever since.
No matter how hard I try, I feel like I am falling further behind in life. Without my dogs and cat, I am not sure I would be here. I struggle everyday to keep alive and not pull the trigger. I am a liberal minded person, but feel strongly that child abusers and animal abusers deserve no compassion. I am a product of the foster care system and it will become clear that “the system” both saved me and failed me.”
Please read the blog, and if you can’t commit to the entire thing, at least read these two posts and visit the “Helpful Tips.”
CPS to the Rescue! (But What Happened?) (LT’s story of entering foster care)
It’s Hard To Believe (LT questions why she was never adopted)
Then, when you’re done reading, hug your foster child, tell them they are worth something, and invite them to tell you anything that they want, without judgement, without comment, aside from to say (and mean it) “I can never understand what you have been through, but I promise I will do my best to be here for you and keep you safe.”